Finding Your Soul Mate - Paul Fenton Smith

When many of us think of soul mates, we think of a loving couple whose every thought, word and hope is realised by the presence of the other partner. Some of us go further, imagining that meeting their soul mate might be the end of a search for deep love and understanding.

When researching Finding Your Soul Mate a different picture emerged. Although couples who responded to my questionnaire spoke of a deep love and an instinctual 'knowing' that they were meant to be together, they also described the difficulties of being in or starting a soul mate love relationship.

Equal to the mountain peaks are the valleys it seems, and many soul mates love relationships had deep and often painful issues which demanded attention. The difference however, with soul mate partners is often the level of commitment to the possibilities these relationships possess. In some cases even when partners ran away from the possibilities of such a powerful love, they found themselves back together again. In some cases each partner married someone else and pursued separate lives before rediscovering one another.

Seeing soul mates as people who have spent time together (as partners, family members of as friends) in previous lives, it stands to reason that some deep part of them is aware of each other when they meet in this life. This awareness often surfaces as feelings and sometimes these feelings can be misinterpreted.

Sometimes you may be completely unaware when a soul mate arrives, as I was in 1983 when sharing a small terrace house in Sydney's eastern suburbs. When our fourth co-tenant left for a job interstate, we advertised for a replacement. After interviewing more than 15 people we were no closer to finding a suitable person, when Jenny arrived to look at the room. My two co-tenants liked her immediately but I felt that she was unhealthy and unhappy with her life, and I didn't want to live with her.

"Well, since we both like Jenny and you don't, if you really don't want her to live here I suggest that you pay the rent on the fourth room until we find someone suitable," suggested Dominic. Knowing that I couldn't afford to pay for an extra room, I accepted Jenny and soon we became firm friends.

Six months later we moved out together to a house of our own and had the time of our lives. We grew closer and closer until I noticed that I could start a sentence and Jenny would finish it. I'd make a humorous comment about a situation and she'd take it to extremes. We shared two more houses together as we found one another easy company. Jenny died in the late 1980's, and several months after her death I delved into our history together. Through hypnosis I was regressed into a life we had shared together at the turn of the century in England, where we had both been men. There we cemented a friendship which was to last lifetimes.

Soul mates as friends, family members and as your children makes sense when you consider that soul mates are mastering spiritual lessons together. Discovering the underlying spiritual lessons together can take some of the tension out of the relationship and at times such knowledge can explain current behaviour.

An example of this occurred with Carl, whose unshakable belief that his partner Rachael would disappear one day without warning and without trace was undermining their long term relationship. Through a series of hypnosis regressions it became obvious that Rachael had been in relationship with Carl previously (in previous lives) and that things had ended badly three times. In one life their relationship ended when Rachael (then also a woman) was caught having an affair. These past life memories were affecting Carl's present relationship, reducing his trust of Rachael. When they had met this lifetime Carl avoided Rachael for the first four months and she pursued him determinedly. It is possible that Carl's deeper memories reminded him of previous pain with Rachael.

Soul mate friendships, relationships and business partnerships offer us deep spiritual lessons if we are prepared to embrace them. When you consider how many time you may have lived, there are opportunities for many soul mate friendships and relationships. While seeking your one soul mate, perhaps you are overlooking all the others, and lets face it, you can't have too many friends.

This is based on Paul's book Finding Your Soul Mate (2001 Simon & Schuster Aust. Ltd.)

© 2001 Paul Fenton-Smith

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Clairvoyant, writer Paul Fenton-Smith is the author of six books on the psychic sciences.

W ith simple language and entertaining examples, Paul takes a practical approach to the esoteric. Whether reading for clients, teaching or conveying his broad knowledge through his books, Paul aims to bring tangible benefits to people's everyday lives.

Paul began his studies with a course in palmistry in 1978. Moving from Adelaide to Sydney in 1980, he studied the tarot and completed a diploma in clinical hypnotherapy (1986) before leaving for London where he completed a certificate in psychic counseling (1991). In 1985 Paul established the Academy of Psychic Sciences in Sydney, aiming to set a standard in the industry.

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